A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
Three weeks in India, and both families want all of them
The tickets are booked for December. His parents in Vijayawada assume you will stay with them. Hers in Jaipur have already told the relatives. There are two weddings, a puja and a cousin who will be offended. You have twenty days and two exhausted children. For couples in San Jose, the annual trip home is often the biggest quarrel of the year.

A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
Calm and balanced
Disagreements are looked at without taking sides.
Phone or video
Works when spouses live apart for work.
Not a replacement for help
Counselling or legal advice may also be needed.
Take a couple planning their visit. He proposes two weeks at his parents' and one at hers, since his are older. She counts the days from the last three trips and finds the same pattern each time. He says she is keeping accounts. She says someone has to.
Time at home is scarce and loaded with meaning. Each parent's hurt is felt by their own child, who then presses the spouse. Custom may assume the husband's home is the base. Meanwhile neither partner gets any rest, and they fly back needing a holiday.
A consultation helps you agree a principle for dividing trips before the dates are discussed. Horoscope guidance is optional. Planning it once, fairly, saves the same argument every year.
Equal days, or alternating the longer stay each year, decided in advance.
A few days in the trip that belong to neither family.
Inviting them over, or one of you making a short extra visit alone.
How many days went to each family and how each of you felt afterwards. The main service page explains how to arrange a session.
How the consultation worksHabit is not a reason. Start afresh with a fair rule.
Each of you explains the plan to your own family, as a joint decision.
Fewer cities and fewer functions make for a better visit for everyone.
Before opening a calendar, settle the rule. Many couples choose an even split; others alternate which family gets the longer stay or the main festival. Special circumstances, such as a parent's illness, are discussed openly as exceptions.
Then build the trip around it. Keep travel between cities to a minimum. Reserve two or three days for the four of you alone, somewhere quiet. Tell both families the plan early, each speaking to your own parents. Where you can, bring parents to California for a longer stay, which takes pressure off the short visit.
You can attend online from San Jose well before booking season. Both of you say what the trip means to you. Birth details are needed only for those choosing a Kundli reading.
Usually it is the simplest. Adjust for real needs, as long as both of you agree.
Your spouse should explain kindly that time will be shared with both families.
Yes. A short solo visit to your own parents can ease things considerably.
If that matters to you, a reading can be included. Dates still need to work for your family.