A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
His brother came to stay for a month. That was two years ago.
He arrived to study, or after a job fell through, or just until he found his feet. He is pleasant enough. He is also always there: on the sofa, at meals, within earshot of every conversation. Your spouse sees no problem. You have not walked through your own home in your dressing gown since he came. Many couples in Manchester house a relative far longer than was planned.

A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
Calm and balanced
Disagreements are looked at without taking sides.
Phone or video
Works when spouses live apart for work.
Not a replacement for help
Counselling or legal advice may also be needed.
Take a wife whose brother-in-law moved in while looking for work. He pays nothing and helps little. When she raises it, her husband says, "He is my brother. Where should he go?" She feels like the unkind one. She also feels she no longer has a home that is hers.
Taking in family is generous and, in many traditions, expected. But an open-ended stay removes a couple's privacy and adds cost and work, usually for the spouse who is not the blood relative. The one whose sibling it is feels caught between loyalty to family and loyalty to their partner.
A consultation helps you agree what is fair to the relative and to yourselves. A Kundli reading is optional. Kindness and limits can go together, and usually must.
Privacy, money, intimacy, the ease of being alone at home.
A contribution to costs, a share of chores, some evenings out of the house.
A clear, kind timeline towards independence, with help to get there.
How long the stay has lasted, what was first agreed, and what is contributed. The main service page has the session information.
See the consultation processA working adult can contribute. It protects their dignity as well as your budget.
The request must come from the sibling's own brother or sister, as a joint decision.
Ask directly for certain evenings or weekends when the house is yours.
Talk as a couple first. The partner who feels crowded explains what they miss, without attacking the relative. The other says what they owe their sibling and what worries them about asking. Find the arrangement you can both stand behind.
Then the blood relative has the conversation: "We are glad to have helped. From next month we need a contribution, help in the house, and a plan for you to move by this date." Offer practical help with finding a room or a job. Meanwhile, take back some space at once: a weekly evening when the house is yours, and a bedroom that is off limits.
The session is online and can be joined from Manchester somewhere private, even a parked car if the house is full. Both of you say what feels fair. Birth details are asked for only with a reading.
No. Wanting privacy in your marriage is normal and healthy.
Ask for a first small step, such as a contribution or a weekly evening alone, and build from there.
Give a reasonable period and practical help. A timeline is still kinder than silent resentment.
No. It is for the two of you.