A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
Every visit to her parents' home starts an argument
She wants to spend a week at her mother's during the holidays. He says three days is plenty and that her place is here. Her parents are received politely and briefly; his are part of daily life. She notices the difference each time and has stopped mentioning it. In Ahmedabad households this imbalance is rarely discussed and widely felt.

A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
Calm and balanced
Disagreements are looked at without taking sides.
Phone or video
Works when spouses live apart for work.
Not a replacement for help
Counselling or legal advice may also be needed.
Picture a wife whose father is unwell. She wishes to stay with her parents for a fortnight. Her husband agrees reluctantly and calls each evening to ask when she is returning. His mother remarks that the house is being neglected. When she comes back, the welcome is cool.
Custom has long treated a married woman as belonging to her husband's family. Many husbands do not question it, and do not see the hurt when their wife's parents are treated as outsiders. For her, it is not about days on a calendar. It is about whether the people who raised her count.
A consultation helps you look at how both families are treated and agree something fairer. A Kundli reading is optional. A husband's respect for his wife's parents is among the strongest signs of respect for her.
Time, money, festivals and attention given to each side, set next to each other.
Calling them himself, visiting willingly, being a son-in-law in more than name.
Particularly in illness and old age, these are real and deserve room.
Days spent with each family and occasions shared with each. The main service page explains the format of a session.
See the consultation processInforming and planning together is reasonable. Needing permission is not.
It punishes the visit. Welcome her back as you would wish to be welcomed.
He should answer them, so she does not have to defend seeing her own parents.
Put the year on paper: visits, festivals, help given, calls made. The husband may be surprised by the difference. Then plan the coming year with her family written in from the start, not fitted in where his leave gaps.
He can do a few simple things that change a great deal: phone her parents without being reminded, go with her sometimes, invite them to stay. When his relatives comment, he replies. If her parents need care, treat it as a shared responsibility in the way his parents' care would be.
You can take the session online from Ahmedabad or Gandhinagar, privately. Both of you explain how the families are placed in your life. Birth details are asked for only with the optional reading.
There is no rule. It should be decided by both of you, with her parents' needs in mind.
Often, once he sees how much it matters to you. Suggest small, specific steps.
Ask your husband to speak to her. It is his place to do so.
Say what you feel is neglected, specifically. Then look together at the balance on both sides.