A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
"I will do it" has stopped meaning anything
The gas booking, the school form, the call to the electrician, the visit to your aunt. Each was promised cheerfully and each is still undone. You have begun doing things yourself and saying nothing, with a hardness that was not there before. Couples in Jammu and Kashmir, like couples everywhere, lose a great deal of goodwill over small undone things.

A private space for both
What you say is not shared with family or friends.
Calm and balanced
Disagreements are looked at without taking sides.
Phone or video
Works when spouses live apart for work.
Not a replacement for help
Counselling or legal advice may also be needed.
Suppose a husband says he will renew the insurance this week. Three weeks later it lapses. His wife reminds him and is told she is nagging. So she handles it herself, as she now handles most things, and begins to see him as another person to manage.
The partner who forgets seldom intends disrespect. They say yes to end the conversation pleasantly and mean it at the time. But each lapse tells the other that their concerns rank low. Reminding turns into nagging; doing it oneself turns into resentment.
A consultation helps you sort out which tasks truly belong to whom and how commitments are made. A Kundli reading is optional. Reliability in little things is how trust is kept from day to day.
A realistic "not this week" is better than a pleasant promise that fails.
Each task has one owner and a date, written where both can see.
The partner who remembers everything is doing unseen work. Acknowledge it.
Tasks promised and not yet done, and since when. The main service page gives the session format.
See the consultation processReminders end when tasks are done on time. That is the simplest cure.
It solves the task and deepens the grievance. Say that you are tired of it.
Use lists and phone alarms without shame. Systems beat good intentions.
Write every recurring household task on one sheet and divide them afresh. For each, one name and, where relevant, a date. Put it on the fridge or in a shared phone note. What is on your side is yours to remember, without prompting.
Agree that either of you may say, "I cannot take that on now," and that this is acceptable. When something slips, the one responsible says so first and names a new date. The other holds back from stepping in for a week and sees what happens. Thank each other when things are done.
Sessions are online, which helps where travel between towns is slow or weather closes roads. Both of you describe how tasks are shared at present. Birth details are taken only for a Kundli reading.
Often to avoid friction in the moment. Ask them to commit only to what they will truly do.
Not in intention. The effect is the same, though, so use reminders and lists.
Agree the list and dates first, then step back for a set period and review together.
Small repeated things shape a marriage. It is a reasonable subject to bring.