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"It was your grandfather's last wish"
Love Marriage Specialist in Singapore
Before he died, your grandfather told the family he wanted to see you married into his old friend's family. Or your grandmother, frail now, asks each week when you will marry the girl she has chosen. Nobody is shouting. Everyone is gently reminding you. It is very hard to argue with the wish of someone dying or dead.
GUIDANCESingapore
Compatibility explained
Charts are compared in plain language, not just a score.
Remote consultation
Useful when the two of you live in different cities.
No forced outcomes
Guidance on timing and approach, without guarantees.
An obligation spoken at a bedside
A woman in Singapore, with a partner of three years, is told that her late grandmother had promised her to a relative's son in Chennai. Her father says, "I gave my word to my mother." He is not angry. He is grieving, and keeping the promise is how he is honouring her.
A wish from an elder near the end of life carries a moral weight that ordinary preferences do not. Families feel bound, and the person concerned feels that refusing is a kind of betrayal. Yet the elder most likely wanted your happiness and chose the surest route they knew.
A consultation helps you find a way to honour the person and the intention without entering a marriage you do not want. Kundli matching can be looked at. No outcome is promised.
Love marriage topics
What we look at before a love marriage
01
What the elder really wanted
Usually your security and the family's continuity. There are other ways to give that.
02
Your parent's burden
They feel responsible for a promise. They need a way to be released from it honourably.
03
Other ways to honour
A ritual in their memory, the elder's blessing sought for your partner, traditions kept in the wedding.
Recall the elder's words
What was said, to whom, and what you believe they hoped for you. The main service page explains the arrangements.
How the consultation worksTypical obstacles
What stops couples in Singapore from marrying
01
Arguing that the promise was unfair
It may be true and will not help. Speak to the love behind it.
02
A living grandparent's daily appeals
Introduce your partner to them directly. Elders often surprise their families.
03
The other family's expectations
They must be told early and with respect, ideally by your parent.
POINTS FOR COUPLES
Keep these in mind
- Speak to the wish behind the promise
- Bring your partner to a living grandparent
- Honour a late elder in another way
- Ask a respected elder to release the family
For couples in Singapore
Honour the intention, and ask to be released from the form
Say to your parent, gently: "Dadaji wanted me to be settled and happy. I believe I have found that. Help me honour him in another way." This lets them keep faith with the elder's purpose.
If the grandparent is living, take your partner to meet them, with a touch of the feet and time spent. Ask for their blessing outright. Many elders, faced with a real and respectful young person, give it. If they have passed, offer something in their name: a prayer, a donation, their customs observed at your wedding. Ask a respected elder or priest to say that a promise made without your consent does not bind you.
The session is online and can be joined from Singapore in the evening. We approach the matter with respect for your elders. Birth details are for matching only.
Love marriage FAQ
Questions couples ask about marrying for love
You can honour his care for you while declining the specific match. Most elders wished for happiness above all.
Suggest ways of honouring the elder, and ask a priest or senior relative to reassure him.
Some traditions have prayers of this kind, which may comfort your family. We do not claim they change anyone's mind.
The truth, early and courteously, with regret for any expectation raised.
Other locations
Love Marriage Specialist in other cities
- Delhi NCR
- Mumbai
- Bangalore
- Hyderabad
- Pune
- Ahmedabad
- Chennai
- Kolkata
- Jaipur
- Surat
- Ludhiana
- Amritsar
- Jalandhar
- Patiala
- Jammu and Kashmir
- Gurgaon
- Vadodara
- Indore
- Noida
- Bhopal
- Lucknow
- Chandigarh
- New York
- Dallas
- San Francisco
- San Jose
- Chicago
- Washington DC
- Houston
- Atlanta
- Seattle
- Los Angeles
- California
- Birmingham
- London
- Manchester
- Leicester
- Slough
- Dubai
- Qatar
- Kuwait
- Italy
- Germany
- Australia
- Iran
- Iraq