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Your parents have someone "back home" in mind for you
Love Marriage Specialist in Birmingham
It has been understood since you were small: your father's sister's son in Mirpur, or a girl from the village in Punjab. Your parents speak of it as settled and of the visit next summer. You were born in Birmingham, you have someone you love here, and you have never said no to your parents about anything that mattered.
GUIDANCEBirmingham
Compatibility explained
Charts are compared in plain language, not just a score.
Remote consultation
Useful when the two of you live in different cities.
No forced outcomes
Guidance on timing and approach, without guarantees.
An old promise made on your behalf
A young woman of twenty-three learns that tickets have been booked for a family trip to Pakistan in July. Her mother mentions, lightly, that her cousin has finished his degree. She has a boyfriend she met at university. She does not know whether this is a holiday or a wedding.
Parents may have made a commitment to relatives years ago and feel their honour depends on it. Such a marriage can also bring a relative to Britain, which adds pressure. Many of these families would listen if their child spoke plainly. Some would not, and pressure can become coercion.
A consultation helps you judge which situation you are in and plan accordingly. We are not a legal or protection service, and will direct you to them where needed. No remedy is offered in place of your right to choose.
Love marriage topics
What we look at before a love marriage
01
Pressure or force
Being urged is one thing. Being threatened, tricked or taken abroad is another, and unlawful.
02
Saying no respectfully
To your parents first, early, before plans are made with the other family.
03
Introducing the person you love
Once the earlier expectation has been addressed.
If you fear being forced, get help first
Forced Marriage Unit 020 7008 0151, or 999 in an emergency. The main service page explains how a consultation is arranged.
How the consultation worksTypical obstacles
What stops couples in Birmingham from marrying
01
Staying silent until tickets are booked
Speak now. Each week makes it harder for your parents to withdraw gracefully.
02
A trip abroad you are uneasy about
If you fear being made to marry, do not travel. Seek advice first.
03
Guilt about the family's word
A promise about your life needed your consent. You may decline it.
POINTS FOR COUPLES
Keep these in mind
- Tell your parents early and kindly
- Enlist a sympathetic relative
- Do not travel if you fear a forced wedding
- Call the Forced Marriage Unit or 999 if at risk
For couples in Birmingham
Say no early, and know where help is
If it is safe, tell your parents clearly and kindly that you will not marry the person they have in mind, and that you are sorry if this embarrasses them with relatives. Ask a sympathetic aunt, uncle or community elder to support you. Give them time to absorb it before you introduce your partner.
If you fear you may be forced, that is a different matter. Forced marriage is a crime in the UK. Contact the Forced Marriage Unit on 020 7008 0151, or call 999 if you are in danger. Do not travel abroad if you suspect a wedding is planned; if you must, tell someone you trust your flight details and keep a copy of your passport with them. Courts can make protection orders.
The session is online and confidential; join from Birmingham somewhere you will not be overheard. We listen and help you plan. Birth details are not required.
Love marriage FAQ
Questions couples ask about marrying for love
No. In an arranged marriage you are free to refuse. If you are not, it is forced, and that is illegal.
Acknowledge it and apologise for their difficulty. It does not oblige you to marry.
We do not claim that. Speaking to them, and legal protection if needed, are what count.
Some families do with time. It cannot be promised.
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Love Marriage Specialist in other cities
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- Pune
- Ahmedabad
- Chennai
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- Jaipur
- Surat
- Ludhiana
- Amritsar
- Jalandhar
- Patiala
- Jammu and Kashmir
- Gurgaon
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- Italy
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