Confidential conversation
Details about you and your partner are kept between us.
You are worried about how much they drink
It used to be a glass with dinner. Now it is several, most nights. They are sharper or more distant after drinking, and they bristle if you mention it. If you are in Seattle watching this with growing worry, your concern is worth acting on.

Confidential conversation
Details about you and your partner are kept between us.
Both sides considered
Patterns in communication and trust are explained plainly.
Phone or video
Suitable if you or your partner live in another city.
Honest limits
Astrology is guidance and not a substitute for talking things through.
Imagine noticing that the recycling fills faster than it used to. Your partner pours a drink as soon as they get in, and another, and another. Plans are forgotten. Mornings are slow. When you say, carefully, that you are worried, they answer, "I'm fine. Everyone drinks. Stop policing me."
People drink more for many reasons, including stress, low mood and habit. They often minimise it, out of shame or because they do not see it themselves. The partner who notices is placed in a hard position: speak and risk a row, or stay silent and watch it continue.
We should be clear about what a consultation can offer. It can help you think through how to raise the subject and look after yourself. It is not treatment. Problem drinking is a health matter, and doctors, counsellors and support groups for both drinkers and their families are the right sources of help.
Stick to specific facts and their effects, such as missed plans, not labels.
A calm moment when they are sober, with concern and without accusation.
Groups for families of drinkers exist for good reason. You need looking after too.
Note what you have seen change and how it affects daily life. The main service page explains how sessions are arranged and what they can and cannot cover.
How the consultation worksExpect it. Say your piece once, kindly, and do not argue the point in that moment.
Making excuses to others shields them from consequences. You can stop doing that.
Worry and vigilance are draining. Get support for yourself whatever they decide.
Choose a time when they have not been drinking. "I've noticed you're drinking more, and I'm worried about you." Give one or two examples of the effect. Suggest they talk to their doctor. You cannot make them stop; you can say honestly what you see and what you need.
Look after your own limits. You do not have to ride with a drunk driver, cover for missed commitments or accept verbal abuse. If drinking is linked to aggression, your safety comes first; contact a helpline or emergency services. Family support groups can help you cope whatever your partner chooses.
Sessions are online and private, booked for US Pacific or India hours. They can give you space to think. They are not a substitute for medical or addiction services.
If it is affecting health, work, mood or the relationship, it deserves attention. A doctor can assess it properly.
No. You can express concern and set your own limits. The decision to change is theirs.
Family support groups and counsellors who work with addiction can help. Your own doctor is a good first step.
No. A reading is not treatment. Please use medical and specialist support.